hellooo all,
well i am heena aka twinkle and i am blogging for the first time today, i dont really know much about all the blogging that people do but i thought why not give it a shot
well about myself i am from india , basically from himachal and i am a punjabi gal brought up in gujarat...i am here to share my experiences in life and may be get some suggestions which i think could solve my problems, answer my un answered questions and also help those young boys and girls who could relate to them , i will be posting things that i face these days and experience and many others do
to begin with "PEER PRESSURE SPECIALLY ON INDIAN GIRLS"
I know its a common topic but here in my life i have experienced it a bit differently, when i grew up i used to enjoy looking at the mirror and posing and dancing ....my mum used to warn me "beta(daughter) you should not spend so much of time in front of the mirror , its not meant for girls who wana be something big or who wana be educated .... i used to hear that very often from my mother...but i had my own dreams, i didnt realise where was life taking me....i was dreaming of becoming a scientist , doctor and something big like that,,, i was the eldest of all and the only child to my parents
i was loved by all and we all lived together in a family but later after i turned 3 my dad and mum and other married couples like my aunts and uncles seperated and started living in seperate houses, me being the eldest had to set an example to my upcoming little brothers and sister , my grandfather had high expectations from me...but then i had my own passion , i still didnt realise where i was going though
i started with a good school in ahmedabad,....life went smooth but i realised from schooling to college i had always been in the lime light , studies werent as important as something else that interested me....may be GLAMOUROUS WORLD? i got the hint when i was asked for my first beauty pageant in da city tht was "miss ahmedabad" i thought ok lets give it a shot and olaaaa...i won the crown....that feeling was outstanding for others i was just some gal who won a small pageant but i felt i was miss universes..i could see my mother cheering me up :-) i was 15 that time
But thn again i was reminded "beta you are the only one you have to set an example" so i was again forced to focus on my books...
why does it happen...i mean.....till date i have won a number of pageants , featured in many magzines and have been doing great still i am 19 and i still hear the same sentence "beta you have to set an example"
my mother supports me both ways....as all mothers do i mean most of..my father doesnt know that i have been to mumbai so many times , my grandfather doesnt have any clue abt my being a model .....my father comes to see my shows often but hasnt taken any ineterst so far...
so i have chosen to study as well as continue modelling...but there is something missing...may b e peace of mind...?
it often happenes...you feel that you are somewhat bounded and wana be free and you are going to be teared or split in to two parts..specially for girls it way too hard..
being the only child you live two lives ...one for your family as in the way they wish to see you ...and one for your passion and dreams ..coz at the end life is just for once ..its either now or never....so if you are the only child and that too a girl....what would you do...follow your passion for life or forever live a life designed by your parents....?
doesnt that make you feel you are lacking peace of mind.....i hereby request all the parents who are reading my blog....if you love your kids and if you have just one child let him/her live his/her dream....if you wont understand who else would....its just you and you who can love and understand them...if you dont let them decide what they want to do...they will not hate you if they are good children of yours but yes..in future when they become parents , they will say to their kids "my parents failed to understand me at this point but i wont" how would you feel then , remember parents we are your kids we love you and please dont discrimintae between your children
the only child of yours also dreams of freedom , he/she also has talent , expectations and hopes let them go ..set them free as they grow......i promise by gods grace you will never regret it.....but if you wont allow tht they might become something big...but somewhere parents "you will be as responsible for robbing their genuine smiles of their faces as you will be for their becoming what you wanted them to be....then decide what have you made them .....great people or great puppets and have you actually been good parents..think again!
god bless you all,
hope you liked my first blog
Shree Ganeshaay Nama: :)
ReplyDeleteagreed to your view point,
ReplyDeletethat parents should not cultivate their children in restriction type of environment
because it is rightly said in local language that
"much u try to press the spring, that much it jumps after its released"
if parents will not allow the practical growth of their children's mind then
how they cn expect that it will take decision in their later life
yr heena i would like to say that this the India, in india there are so many culture, ethics, and so many perception n all. ur mother is say truth. after all she is ur mother, in future u become mother u will have also child, so u think like an mother.
ReplyDeleteam not telling you that u r wrong, ur side u r right but mum is mum... so
u und wt i st...